Submitted by ThrowRa2838579 t3_1205067 in relationship_advice
edit: we have been together for 3 almost 4 years
Throwaway for obvious reasons. Yesterday, I went through my boyfriends phone. Recently, I caught him looking through mine which influenced me to look through his. What I found shocked me. I found videos of him wearing my clothes, that he stole, and using a dildo to pleasure himself. I am totally fine with experimenting with your body and things of the sort, in fact I encourage it and have wanted to peg him in the past, but when you steal my clothes and hide it from me it is quite the shock. A while back I lost some bathing suits and thought he was the one that stole them. I don’t know if he did or not, but in the past he has been controlling about what I wear, telling me to change etc. The clothes that I did see in the video are summer clothes so I haven’t noticed that they were gone. I went on vacation recently and bought a whole new wardrobe and those bathing suits went missing which is why I noticed. When I confronted him about this, he was upset of course. I violated his privacy. I understand he feels ashamed and embarrassed and I told him he doesn’t need to feel that way. I told him I support him, but that I just feel weird about him stealing my stuff. I asked why he stole them and he said I don’t know. We don’t live together, so he had to have went through my stuff at a strategic time to get what he wanted. I am freaked out, to say the least. I never expected this. I genuinely support him experimenting, but the way he stole my stuff really has me messed up. I do not know what to do. I cannot stop thinking about it. I want to be supportive, but it’s hard at the same time when I know he has stolen from me. I also don’t think I am really into femboys. What should I do?