Submitted by ThrowRAhotrock2557 t3_121nwq3 in relationship_advice
First of all I wanted to say thank you for all the support and advice on my last post. I read every single comment and wanted to reply but the reply option wasn't available. I am new to reddit; Im not sure why the post was capped and doesn't allow any more comments. After feeling encouraged by your comments, I had the confidence to tell him that I choose being able to wear what I want. I reiterated how important fashion is to me and how his demands were bringing me back to a dark time of negative body image. We came to an agreement that there are fundamental differences in our values and what we want out of a relationship, because I want to be encouraged and uplifted while he wants a girl who's "body is only his to look at." (By the way, I wanted to say that this dress was NOT scandalous. It is tight in some parts, but doesn't show a lot of skin) He told me that we were done. He then blocked me on everything because "if he saw me, he would never be able to get over me." I cried for a couple of hours and then got myself collected. I made an appointment with a therapist and got a membership at a different gym than him. But then 5 hours later, he unblocked me and sent a long paragraph about how he shouldn't have been so hasty and was willing to change to make things work. Yesterday he texted me some more asking to talk in person I agreed to meet up for dinner in a public place. I WORE THE DRESS. He brought me a bouquet of white roses and my favourite chocolate. He told me I look beautiful and that the five hours without me hurt so much and at this point "he doesn't care if i'm walking around naked as long as he's the one i'm with." Can this man's "fundamental values " really change overnight? Also, I felt almost giddy and excited once I was done crying. Now I feel bad for him.