Submitted by Regular-Mortgage-794 t3_123u6or in relationship_advice
My partner and I have been together for 5 years. When we were dating openly, he had a brief romantic relationship with his “healer” or love therapist, breaking things off with her after a few months and only being friends. This was long before we closed our relationship and before we conceived our pregnancy with twins, which he is completely over the moon about. It has always been his dream to have a family and children, and he’s the happiest he has ever been before and tells me he loves me every day. I love that he, a diagnosed anxious love avoidant, has someone he trusts and can work on his issues with, but something in my gut tells me that she is still in love with him and has ulterior motives becoming closer to me and us. Would I be crazy to ask him to stop seeing her or set some boundaries? I am at a loss whether to support this outlet he has, what the best thing for our relationship would be. We have done some sessions together with her, although I end up feeling anxious and confused in the aftermath. She only supports our relationship and is very loving towards me, but is very touchy feely with him (cuddling, massages..) These pregnancy hormones don’t make the jealously and suspicious any easier.. Please help me understand!