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desecrated_throne t1_iuihsdd wrote

If she's unwilling to continue trying, there isn't much you can do. You cannot force her to stay with you just because you believe you can change and "fix" things. Focus on yourself for a while; figure out what drove you to cheat and lie and work on healing from the cause so you never hurt a partner in that way again. Move on and take care of yourself.

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lkkwus74 OP t1_iuii55c wrote

Thank you . So what do I do ? Do I just avoid her completely ? She still tries to keep in contact with me by messing and calling

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desecrated_throne t1_iuj82bx wrote

I would recommend expressing to her that you're not able to continue contact for the time being and if she isn't willing to keep trying you'll need space from her to sort your feelings. You can set a time frame for no contact and step back to focus on yourself, and if she refuses to respect your space you may need to block her temporarily.

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lkkwus74 OP t1_iuj8c31 wrote

didn't really expect this answer . Is there a reason why I should do this ? Is it to give her space to heal ? After all she's feeling the way she feels bcos of me .

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