citiesskapes t1_iuh9prw wrote on October 31, 2022 at 9:45 AM

Reply to comment by BlueFruitJam in I am starting to dread seeing my boyfriend especially when he is supposed to stay over by [deleted]

It is not my first relationship but it is his first. However, I didn’t have sex in my other relationship so it’s my firs time as well.

We never had sexual intercourse but at the beginning of the relationship he initiated several times sexual contact, but then it only decreased from there. I have tried talking to him about it, and he always says he wants it. We even tried scheduling it but then he either forgets or doesn’t talk about it. I am not sure if he is insecure, or genuinely not that interested.

BlueFruitJam t1_iuha5l1 wrote on October 31, 2022 at 9:51 AM

To me it seems like he likes the idea and wants it "in theory" but may not be his interest in reality or is just confused about it altogether (which explains him trying & then backing off when he was really in the situation) so he's either consciously/ unconsciously avoiding it till the time he understands himself and his thoughts on the subject or maybe really waiting for some "right feeling" to do the deed (which is a slimmer possibility)

Honestly it looks like it has more to do with himself than you or the relationship. He values you & likes you and loves you for real but he's unsure of certain things in his mind

citiesskapes t1_iuhanbv wrote on October 31, 2022 at 9:58 AM

thank you for taking the time to respond, it helped a lot to see a different perspective

BlueFruitJam t1_iuhawc3 wrote on October 31, 2022 at 10:02 AM

Glad to be of help, I hope you guys soon be able to resolve and overcome your issues and enjoy all the love and intimacy you deserve :)