Submitted by Crafty-Owl6321 t3_xwl1zz in relationship_advice
Tl;dr bf is acting really sketchy about meeting his male friend and doesn't want me to go into his home because he says I'll get sick. Our communication seems super weird and I'm feeling really suspicious about the whole thing. Hes goibg to great lengths to keep me from meeting his friend and going info his home. A thing that would normally never be an issue. I don't know what to make of it. My intuition is telling me he's lying.
I feel my bf has been really sketchy this week. He has a guy friend staying with him this week and he's been leading me on that we are going to hang out and meet up so I can meet him. He even said his friend wanted to meet me so we can talk. Every time we are going to meet up, he cancels for some excuse. Now he's suddenly sick and so is his friend so no meet up. So because he was sick, i ordered food for him and his friend via doordash to be thoughtful. Usually when i do this, he's super thankful. This time i did it, he was like wait but did you go to my house? Did you drop it off yourself? He bombarded me with questions about the food and how it got there. So naturally, i felt off by his reaction and told him he was acting strange. We're leaving on a trip to Austin tomorrow to see his family and his friend is going to drive us. I told him it would be easier for me to go to his home early because I have a meeting before our flight and then after the meeting we can go straight to the airport. Things got weird again. I tell him my plan about going to his home early and he says, I don't want you in my home because the "cold" virus is in there. I said it's really going to be OK. It's no big deal. I'll wear a mask if you're so worried. Then he says no, i dont want want you in my home. We've been sneezing and spitting and many other sick things. Again, I said he's being weird. I'm going to be exposed regardless because he's still sick and his friend is driving us and I'm going to be around them anyway. He says: yeah but we can open the windows so less exposure. I say: that's the dumbest thing I've ever heard. Just open your house windows and door then by that logic. He says: I've been trying to protect you by not seeing you and coming in my home is the worst thing. I prefer to leave from your house with Seth and drive straight to the airport. (Mind you, his home 10 minutes away from the airport. Mine is 30) At this point he starts throwing all the stops. What about the dogs? They'll get sick. Think about my parents. They'll get sick. But babe you need your privacy for your meeting your home is better. Actually, Seth and I want to play Mario kart. He wants to play you in super smash. I say: now you suddenly want to play video games when you're trying to protect me from your virus? None of this makes any sense. To me, it feels like you're going through great lengths to keep me out of your home and I don't know why. Then he tells me IM the one being weird. And turning itnon me. His defense is he wants to protect me from his virus and reduce my exposure. But nothing of which he is suggesting will ultimately protect me from that because I'm still going to be aroubd him. He just wants me to blindly listen to him and I'm not buying it. It's driving me crazy. My intuition is telling me he's lying.
Idk how to approach this or make of this. Advice is welcome.