Submitted by Calm-While3454 t3_xwvpg0 in relationship_advice
This is my first time posting here. I heard of this site before but don't know how this works. I don't want to give out too much information in case others or even her might be users here. Nowadays it's a small world. I'm nervous and just had a bad argument again (my guilt is killing me) so if any of you can be helpful I'd gladly appreciate it. I'm not even at home now. I'm using my cousin's PC.
I cheated on my wife nearly 4 months ago with a co-worker at my job. That was the first time I've ever slept with another woman besides my wife. I was a shy virgin when my wife met me in college long ago. She's suspecting it by now, asked questions about my recent changes and I don't know how to come forward with it. In my attempts to escape from getting caught, I tend to drink some days to relieve me of my guilt or verbally lashed out at her by using her only single weakness as an argument.
I know what's it like being cheated on. I've been there once but that's an ancient story I don't care to share and it brings bad memories. My main concern is that now I'm officially a cheater, what I hated becoming. I just ended my affair last week but I'm scared of getting find out, exposed, etc. I think I'm making it very obvious because I suck at lying and tend to get upset if I'm cornered.
I would like to know how to proceed to this. I believe confessing is the right thing. Anyone???