Submitted by ThrowRASisorHus t3_xx7q0z in relationship_advice
My husband just drop this on me, I am totally clueless about the whole situation and I am not even sure how am I feeling right now. The following is account from my husband, I have yet to verify anything:
Months ago, my husband bump into my sister fiance (Let's call him Mark, ~29-30M, not sure), they were not particularly close but they know each other. My husband was coming to pick me up for a date, and Mark was surprised because my sister told him she was hanging out with me. This set off an alarm with both of them.
I have to provide some clarity before the next part. Both me and my sister move to the same city for job, our parents are back in hometown. So, both of us are very close and spend a lot of time together. Sometime my sister would just show up after work and we will go for a drink or do something.
Then, at one point my sister told Mark she was going to hang out with me again, my husband nonchalantly mentioned it and thought we would be hanging out instead of my sister. I didn't think much of it since my sister sometime do just show up. I ended up calling my sister to say I would be hanging out with my husband, ask her not to come if she plan to. My husband and Mark take this as I was helping to cover for my sister.
They then checked both mine and my sister phone. Of course, my husband found nothing on mine, but Mark found some suggestive texts. They hired PI to followed both me and my sister, they caught my sister went to hotel with a guy multiple times.
Back to now, I am really angry. I felt like my husband can't trust me at all, but the circumstances seems reasonable. I asked him why didn't he talk to me, he said if I know, my sister will know and they wouldn't be able to get any evidence. You know what, I am angry that he is probably right, I will definitely talk to my sister if I had known and talk her out of it.
My husband now wants me to cut contact with my sister, because he said we are too close and will be a bad influence. Our relationship will be over if he found out I am helping my sister. My sister has been my support when I am going through hardship, now that she is going through problem, I can't imagine not being there. I also hate that I know I should be angry with my sister rather than my husband, but I just don't. Advices?
Edit: Do people realize I literally got my life detonated less than 24 hours? I can't read anymore reply now as most of the reply is not doing any good to my headspace, so I will not reply further.