Submitted by ThrowRA_SexHurts t3_xy3p42 in relationship_advice
I (19m) have been dating my boyfriend (27m) for a few months now. His my first relationship and his the first Ive done anything sexual with. When he took my virginity I expected it to hurt a bit and it did but nearly every time since, when we have sex its hurts. I thought I would get use it it by now. I tried to talk about it with him but he just brushes it off saying I will get use to it and that it will take a little while since his pretty big down there. I have toys that are close to his size but it never hurts when I use them it just hurts when Im having sex with him. Ive tried talking to him out of the bedroom about it and in the bedroom but instead of stopping in the moment he just slows down. I just don't think he understands how painful it can be. How do I get him to listen and not be so rough? Im just so frustrated about it since the few times it hasn't hurt it was really good so I know he can be gentle and how good the sex can be.
TL;DR: It hurts when having sex with my boyfriend, he doesn't seem to understand how painful it can be. How do i get him to understand.
Edit: Im not going to break up with my boyfriend but I did sit him down this morning before he went to work and had a serious conversation. I told him that sex was to painful and full of discomfort so I will not be having sex till he can learn to take my feelings into consideration and that I will be stopping it from now on when it does hurt and if things don't change it will be the end of the relationship. He seemed receptive. He apologised and told me he didn't realise it was that bad. We had a good cry and cuddled till he had to go to work. I guess we will see how things go but I'm hopeful.
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