Submitted by h17017 t3_xzer80 in relationship_advice
Bf threw my painting against the wall , smashing it to pieces. after destroying my painting he hit my forehead with his palm very hard I fell into the wall, then he told me that he “wants to punch my face “during argument. Is he trying to get me to break up with him? After all this he acts normal and kind shows me memes to try and make me laugh… I sat in the car for hours after this he kept calling me telling me he made food for me. then if I say one little thing it sets him off . Starts shaking me again .
The first time he did this was 2 nights ago and today . Again.. he did it again. But worse, destroyed my painting, he broke his coat rack from throwing the laundry bag at it, picked me up in the air and threw my in the bed , and said he would break everything in the apartment but I told him not to and he didn’t. He then cleaned up all the mess so I was not able to take any photo for evidence but the room was destroyed... then he told me he was going to go to his ex’s house to “k!ll her” because it’s causing his trust issues and he still has trauma from her and it’s causing problems with us. I then asked why is he talking about her and why is she causing problems with our relationship I said I was upset my painting is ruined and how he mentioned his ex and he grabbed my neck hard for a few seconds .. I saw his pupils turn different size one was bigger than the other …
We live together ..
When I started crying and saying how my painting is gone forever he told me to go to sleep , and he just fell asleep.i had this painting for 10 years and it went with me where I went..its gone now . It’s like he doesn’t see how much he hurt me, I can barely move my head from the neck/ upper body pain… when I look in pain he doesn’t even acknowledge me and continues to ignore and look as if he never noticed or is completely ignoring how I am moving in pain slowly .. he even told me “ stop faking it and looking like a victim “
Update* this morning. He’s normal.. happy looking. Laughing at memes on social media..he even decorated and rearranged the bedroom and says he wants me to feel welcome