would u consider it a red flag if your boyfriend punches a wall when mad

would u consider it a red flag if your boyfriend punches a wall when mad

would u?. my ex did this and idk i got so scared. he told me to stay away as he has anger issues and he calmed down and resumed normally

update: the reason why he got mad was because i kept insisting to go out with his friends and he didnt want to tKe me as he wanted to separate everything it was weird. i met them like twice but he would continue to go out every weekend.. he said he would come weekdays but i wanted to actually chill and have fun with him not juzt chill and do homework.. i dunno Made another post about it:

https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/xzuo09/abusive_ex_or_childish_me/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf made another post about it

update: why are some comments attacking me??

update: i see. well the thing is we were fighting about me wanting to go out with him. sometimes he would get mad for no reason lol. and i would ask why and he just wouldnt be able to tell me. happened once …. the first time he ever got mad we were 3 months in and he yelled at me because i didn’t listen to him as i was taking him to school. i turned left. he wanted me to turn right. he got angry then apologized. it didnt happen again until when in jan he said i made him frustrated but he was a changed man so he didnt feel the need to get angry. i was even like “if u would have yelled at me for something that simple i would have been angry and left. he said ya i know im changed. months later he got all depressed and just very into his work. he just stopped coming over etc and he felt so distant idk i mentioned in my other post how sex stopped etc

i would ask him to come over and he wouldnt and he would get frustrated at the fact that he had to work and i didn’t understand

adding onto this bc i keep getting attacked:

i wouldnt nag…24/7 Lol no one has the time to nag 24/7. lol he would go out sometimes and be like “im going to so and so’s place” and i was like ok bye have fun. and go to my house and cry Lol.

i even decided therapy bc i had this fear he didnt like me despite him coming over weekdays but again we would just do hw and chill and sex was fine so i wasnt too worried..

all of february every saturday and friday he went out and i didnt say anything at all.

march i got a bit annoyed and i addressed it and then he said i didn’t understand how busy he was and i was like ok fine chill.

april i addressed it once more but this time i was pissed and we got into a fight. we had one more fight but i apologized. we hadnt had sex in like 4 weeks lol… i was ok with it bc we had finals and i knew he was stressed… after that he would go out with friends stopped coming over or stay home and work. and thats when sex stopped lol too.

i didnt say anything to him bc i didnt want him to get angry… until i asked whats up.

he asked if thats all i think about and he said a relationship felt like an anchor as he has a million things going on