Submitted by Raejaybird t3_y0sczk in relationship_advice
My boyfriend (24m) and I (24f) originally started talking in November of last year and then became official by the end of December. Today he told me that he had a paternity test done and it turns out he’s the father of his ex’s baby, which was born beginning of August this year. It’s been really hard for me to process all this, when we started dating we both agreed to never having kids. He even got a vasectomy back in May. I don’t know what to do or how to feel about this whole situation. I love him so much and he says he wants to stay together.
Has anyone else been in this situation? I don’t know what to expect if I stay. I never wanted to be any kind of parental figure. Are there certain things I need to consider when deciding if i stay or leave?
TLDR: Boyfriend found out he has a son. I don’t know if i should stay or leave.