Submitted by revstick t3_y1glzc in relationship_advice
Can you give someone a second chance after cheating on you? After over 2 years in a relationship with my girlfriend and almost a year living together; everything has been great between us. Small arguments here and there but nothing out of the ordinary. Recently I found out she has been cheating on me for about 2 months. There are certain things she has wanted me to do with her and go out with her more but I have not done those things with her. I have been working on myself and not been trying to spend money going out as of right now. Also a few months ago I told her I am not too crazy about marriage, which scared her I guess but she never had a deep conversation with me about it. Instead, I guess she got scared I wasn’t committed and doing things with her and acted single to another guy she cheated on me with. After he found out I was in the picture he is done.
I have always said if someone cheats on me, it’s an instant break up. And she has heard that line before as well. Now that I am in the situation and I do still love her, it is extremely hard.
Basically there are a lot of variables that are at play I would say,
But overall, can a relationship go on and be given a second chance after she has full out cheated on me?
I feel it would be super hard to build the trust back; and would take quite a while or long time…