Submitted by tactsteez t3_y1x4kw in relationship_advice
My girlfriend and I have been together for a little over 2 years. When we both met we both had our own cars. She would vent to me every so often about her car loan being too expensive. I currently work at a job which provides me with a vehicle that can be taken home and be driven to and from work only. My girlfriend and I came to the agreement of selling her car in order to pay off her car loan and also save money while in the meantime she uses my personal car to get to work and I use the vehicle my job provided me with to get to work. The purpose of selling her car and saving money was so she could finance a cheaper car or purchase a car cash with the money saved so she wouldn’t have a car loan to pay each month. It’s been almost a year now and she still hasn’t purchased a car. I have found myself having to borrow friend’s or family member’s cars in order to be able to get to places when it’s not work related. I have even had to uber at times just to get to where I need to go because my girlfriend would be at work with my car. I don’t see her making a conscious effort in purchasing a car any time soon. Should I tell her she’s no longer allowed to take my car to work and make her start taking an uber to work in order to get her to buy a car? I’ve brought the lack of effort I’ve observed up to her attention serval times already and I feel like she’s not doing anything about it. Each time she just says she’s still saving money and that it takes time but it’s been almost a year now. She doesn’t pay rent or a mortgage and she makes slightly more money than I do.
TLDR I agreed to allow my girlfriend use my car until she saved enough money to buy her own car. It’s been almost a year. Should I tell her she’s not allowed to use my car anymore?