Submitted by ThelastNovaB2 t3_y2dk1h in relationship_advice
My wife and I met about 3 years ago started dating and got married, everything seemed fine, we moved to a different state and the move was agreed on before the marriage. (Better job) we had one kid together after our first year of marriage and she brought a kid from another relationship and I love them both. Lately I have been gone for work and my wife has been saying she has been unhappy for some time and she wanted to open the relationship.. I am strictly against it.. I told her these are my boundaries and she still is pushing for it. I've recommended couples therapy and such but she seems skeptical, she has gone to independent therapy but claims it doesn't help, as have I. She keeps saying opening the relationship is the only choice and that we'd act married for our kids sake. I don't have any interest in this nor do I see myself changing my mind, I am being told I'm unreasonable just saying it's out of the question. I have felt out marriage straining but I assumed that she just was having a problem adapting to the new place, now she is bombarding me with everything, saying she has been lying to me about alot of things, like my appearance and such I am not fat by any standard but I am not necessarily as fit as we first got married (about a 10-15lbs difference). I don't want to lose my kid, my wife or my step son but I can't accept the idea of opening our relationship.. I feel like I know what this is going to lead to but I feel like people may be able to help. Can I get some advice on what I should do once I return from business?
Edit: if it matters I'm the only source of income. Is she using me for my money? Edit 2: we agreed to counciling after I used "I'll agree with opening our marriage when we sign divorce papers" sounded cooler in my head tbh