Submitted by unevenemotion t3_y40n0t in relationship_advice
My boyfriend lost interest in eating me out after trying it once
I (19f) have been with my boyfriend (19m) for a little over 9 months.
About 4 months ago, he seemed very enthusiastic about eating me out and letting me sit on his face but I was hesitant because I thought he wouldn’t like the flavor or smell or something. I finally let him try. It felt nice but only lasted for a couple seconds before he came back up and said “hmm… that would take some getting used to (the flavor).”At that point I got insecure so I said he didn’t need to continue which he didn’t.
Another time we gave it another chance. Unfortunately there was the smallest bit of toilet paper stuck there. He immediately spit it out, got turned off, and stopped entirely. I was so embarrassed. Ever since then he’s never asked to eat me out. I am now even more insecure than I was to begin with.
I don’t even know if I want to be eaten out at this point because of my insecurity. It’s just the fact that he went from enthusiastic to never mentioning it. I’ve asked since then if he’d be interested, to which he replies “maybe” and that’s that. Nothing happens.
Would it be better to say something or let it be? What exactly would I say to him? How would you feel on either end of the situation?
TLDR: My boyfriend used to be enthusiastic about eating me out and when I finally let him he lost interest entirely. I enjoy the feeling but now I’m more insecure than ever about it and I don’t know if I should talk to him about it or what to say.