Submitted by ThrowRA-sadsadsad t3_y4in2p in relationship_advice
We were together for a year before moving in together. My roommate was moving and the lease was almost up and I couldnt find another roommate soon enough so I moved in with him. Hes great, honestly. Even with how hurt and upset this has left me i cant really find anything bad about him except his bluntness, but hes not american and just more direct culturally.
Anyways. 2 months in he sits me down and tells me hes breaking up with me and I should start looking for a new place. He gave me 30 days. Its just not working, he said. Honestly it caught me off guard because I was loving living with him and thought he felt the same. So i pressed for why and he. Just.unloaded. Not in an angry way, but you could tell it was a buildup. All his reasons basically make me sound undatable, I didnt think I was that bad of a partner honestly. So I asked him why he didnt consider working on it, because almost all the things he listed I could improve on.
So he goes: " im not going to spend my best years parenting a grown woman. I didnt expect a 24 year-old to be like this, honestly.'
Like, how tf do I come back from that. Its been 5 months since then and Im just stuck. I saw him in town with a girl the other day and just cried the whole night. How tf do i get both over him and what he said to me
TL;DR got dumped pretty brutally. Still struggling. Any advice?