Submitted by Revolutionary-Fix751 t3_y5h5a4 in relationship_advice
So I work a full time manufacturing job, which requires me to work 10-12 hours a day, sometimes 6 days a week. My wife, stays at home with the kids, or should I say kid since my oldest goes to school. Which I have no problem with what so ever. If she would prefer to stay at home and take care of the house and the kids, then by all means. If she would want to go to work and help take care of the bills and then split the difference on taking care of the house, again I have no problem with that either.
But here is the issue, she wants to stay at home, but she don't want to take the responsibility of doing the stay-at-home things. Now don't get me wrong, I understand how hard it is for a stay at home mom. I understand how hard taking care of kids on a daily basis can be. But the issue that I'm having is that she uses that as a excuse to not having to do anything and then just precedes to just sit there and play on her phone all day long cause she feels that no matter what she does, she can't get anything done. But then goes on saying that when I'm off work that I can take over and help out with what she didn't get done?! Which from what I'm looking at is nothing at all!
Now I'm not the one to immediately come home to see what has or hasn't been done and get mad about it. I sympathize with her and understand that there are days that she had it hard, or that she had appointments she had to get to and when she asks me to pick up something to eat because of that, then I do just that. But there are days when I feel like she lays in bed all day or when she gets up just sits in the chair and just watches tv or plays on her phone all day long then it starts to build up inside me and I get frustrated. And what makes it go over the edge it the fact I will have a weekend off at work, and nothing is done around the house and I mean NOTHING, she will precede to ask me to help clean the house with her!
So yes I get mad about that and I ask why is this not getting done during the week when I'm at work? Why is it that when I get home, I have no place to sit down cause the laundry you are trying to do is all over the furniture and doesn't get done for days/weeks on end? Why is it that when you cook food, its more often times then not the food that you like, but when I suggest something to eat, then I'm usually the one that has to cook it?
Now guys I just might be overreacting and that I need to sympathize with her, which I do to a certain extent so don't get me wrong. But maybe I am overreacting, what do you think guys? If you need more details on anything, don't be afraid to ask.