Submitted by [deleted] t3_y5m08x in relationship_advice
My (29F) partner (27M) is a lot more sexually experienced than I am, it seems, and it feels like I can’t make him cum 40% of the time and it this point it’s just wrecking my self esteem. When we first started dating/met it was a hookup only type of situation and I seemed to do just fine but recently it’s been hard for me to get him off and at this point I don’t even want to have sex with him anymore.
I’ve found messages from him to his friends talking about the top tier girls he’s had sex with and the best ones. His ex girlfriend is #1. He doesn’t even talk about sex with me.
Everything else is pretty much perfect. But I don’t want to be with someone that makes me feel undesirable. He always looks so bored and disinterested when I’m on top, and historically most guys have told me I’m the best they’ve ever had.
I’m pretty much like 80% ready to end things over this. How do I get better without having sex with someone else? He doesn’t seem to be willing to give instructions or help out much. He just looks pissed whe he gets close, I continue with what I’m doing, and then just doesn’t finish and gets pissed.