Submitted by Longjumping-Date-486 t3_y6v3so in relationship_advice
I’m only posting here because I’m struggling with the thought of being told I’m being a bad parent/ provider. When I found out my girlfriend was pregnant last year I did my best to be supportive I put her on my bank account bought her a new suv and told her she could quit her job if she wanted (which she did) I was supportive and there for the entire pregnancy and when our son was born I took 8 weeks off work to help her recover and bond with our son. I’ve worked at my job for 2 1/2 years now and in the time I’ve worked there I’ve received two promotions. The problem started because I went back to work which means I have to travel out of town 5 days a week. I’m 7months out from getting a license that would get me a promotion with Less travel and a 6 figure salary. we are in a constant argument over my job because of the amount of traveling I have to do I understand she’s struggling being alone 5 days a week with our son but I don’t think she’s seeing the long game here I’m trying to secure a stable future for all of us. I keep telling her she just needs to buckle down for these few months till I get promoted again but she insists that I quit. I’m at a loss on what to do if I quit now I’ll have wasted 2 1/2 years of work experience on the other hand I know if I don’t get a job close to home it’ll be then end of the relationship and her self destruction. She has an alcohol problem and I’ve found a few cans of beer recently which I didn’t drink Am I trying to save a dead relationship should I try for custody I’m tired of being berated when I’m doing the best I can. I’m at a stalemate with myself and need some advice
Edit: I didn’t expect so many comments but thank you to everyone I realize this post needed more detail. I made it late at night so forgive me. We moved back in with my family both sides of the family offered to let us move back in as they are aware I’d be traveling for another couple months. I left that decision up to her and where she’d be more comfortable she chose my family’s home. I do leave home Monday early morning (ex: 3am) and come home Friday afternoon (ex: 5pm) When I’m home I do all the care for our son feedings diapers play time I try and get as much time with him as possible. I also cook our meal preps for the week I had suggested day care previously but she didn’t like the idea ( I suggested a nanny today) I’m not trying to down play her issues so thank you to the comments from both perspectives I’m trying my best to be a good dad. I’ll edit it more when I read some more comments