Submitted by AdorableAd4869 t3_yaswyy in relationship_advice
My husband of 3 years cheated on me. I found him in a hotel room with a stripper. He says no intercourse was had but other things were done. This has hurt me in at an immense level. I feel betrayed, heart broken and like my peace has been taken away. I have not stopped sobbing since.
Backstory: My husband and I have been together since high school, both of us were 16 years old when we began dating. We got married at 24 and are now 27. We are all each of us has ever known sexually and up until recently, that hadn’t been a problem. Early this year, we began to fight a lot and he shared with me that he feels like he missed out on having fun and being a man and having a college experience because we’ve been together for so long and got married so young. I almost feel like he resents me for getting married so young and taking away his ability to go out and fuck whoever he wants. I tell myself that he made this choice himself. Now it seems like he wants out of this commitment and its all culminated into him cheating. Now he’s saying he pretty much wants an open relationship to keep fucking other people but wants to continue coming home to me.
He has said that he knows he is flawed in his thinking and that he thinks he has some more maturing to do. Hes even said that he wishes we had met when we were older, so that all of this would be out of his system. He has said that he’d be willing to go to couples therapy or counseling to try and make this work between the two of us, but something in me tells me that this is not all the way out of his system, and that even if we continue, he’ll cheat on me again. I can’t see myself ever agreeing to an open relationship, because that would go against my morals and what I believe. I am at a crossroads now where if we continue forward I may live with fear that he’ll do this again and that hes unhappy or do we go our separate ways, either way will be difficult.
I feel like I lost my best friend, companion and the person I’d be spending the rest of my life with. I don’t know what to do. Any thoughts would be appreciated.