Submitted by Evening_Coast2557 t3_yg2v0u in relationship_advice
For starters a little background I’m a 6ft 170 lb, I played sports my whole life and have been in the gym for 3 years consistently I even got a scholarship to play runningback in football for college and I’m good looking(I’m not trying to sound full of myself I’m actually really insecure) I work two jobs and am in college full time, my girlfriend always finds ways to put me down of belittle me she 5’6 and will constantly tell me I’m short or that I’m not tall or that we’re the same height she will tell me I look okay she doesn’t compliment me ever and even if I ask her for a compliment she won’t do it, I’m well endowed and she will constantly act like my p****s is small despite me being far above the average, she will act like I’m not doing anything with my life and I’m just a bum despite having two jobs and school, if I send her nudes she doesn’t even react to them she will just say who did you send that to she constantly puts me down when I try and buy new clothes or get a haircut get my eyebrows done, or if I go to the gym she’ll say stuff like “you look fine now” even if I haven’t had a haircut in months but when I get one she’ll say stuff like it looks ok but that’s it, I recently got more ear piercing and she only has negative things to say, my eyebrows get really bushy like unibrow busy so when I get them done and shaped they’re a noticeable difference and she’ll say it doesn’t even look different and then she’ll try and get me to wear stuff or do my hair in a certain that looks objectively ugly, I feel like she’s trying to make me look ugly, she tells me she likes when I’m skinny and not buff even though you could see my ribs when I was skinny or she’ll tell me she doesn’t want me to go to the gym, or whenever I send her a photo of myself she just points out negatives she never just compliments me and then today I woke up with a bump on my lip(from stress) I ask her just in case if it’s from her if she had been seeing someone else and got herpes because I’ve been having issues with my lips being chapped since she was sick a couple weeks ago, she says no and I act her if she’s sure because this is serious and she says yes, so I drop it but then she says it’s monkey pox because I’m gay and it’s from my male coworkers I’ve been hanging out with lately and I play along and say no it’s from your gay best-friend he’s a bottom and she calls me gross and that if I could leave her friends out of it and then she says I’m gay again in a serious way and I’m like are you serious you think I’m gay and she says maybe so I ask her to put it on something and she does I ask her if she’s serious and she says idk what you’re into, and honestly I’m kinda hurt I’ve only been with women (20) and am straight as a whistle and we’ve been dating for 3 years it feels like she is just trying to belittle me again and try and make me insecure about yet another thing, on top of this she puts down any accomplishment I get she acts like they either don’t mean anything or aren’t important, any advice as to why she’s like this and what I should do from here?