Submitted by Anxious-Ad576 t3_ygi24h in relationship_advice
So I (25m) used to talk to this girl (23f). I liked her and we dated for a three to four months about a few years ago. It didnt go well so we ended things but came back together as friends. The thing is i still liked her but she didnt like me. During our friendship she would go out with different guys. I would just be on the side in the friendzone, hoping one day she’ll come back to me. During that time we would be on the phone for hours almost every day. She’d come to me for her relationship problems and all. I even remember telling her that i still liked her after a while of being in the friendzone and she just responded with “so that’s why you’ve been talking to me this whole time? Because you like me?”, which is basically another way of saying i don’t like you. I went through depression and felt pretty crappy due to all of this. This lasted about two years. About two and a half years later i finally get me a girlfriend. Im excited about it so i go and tell friends and others about the amazing girl i now am dating. My ex is one of the people i tell about it. She thinks its nice and all. Gives me tips etc. It goes well. She’s still doing the same as usual, in a relationship at the time that i tell her but then about two months later her and her boyfriend break up. So recently (this is about two months after her breakup with her last boyfriend) she randomly calls me in the middle of the night having a breakdown, crying because she misses me. I basically tell her that i cant talk to her again since im in a relationship. But she just says a bunch of things..
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She says the whole time she had me in the friendzone she liked me but just didn’t say it
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compares my girlfriend i have to her, asking if my girlfriend is better than her
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Asks me if i still love her
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Asks me how can i move on like i did (i moved from her about a year ago after she randomly blocked me for some reason and didn’t talk to me again until about four months later..)
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She says she seeked me in the guys she dated while i was in the friendzone (doesnt make sense since she had me with her. Why didnt she just go back out with me instead of keeping me in the friendzone?)
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Tells me im going to regret losing her
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Tells me im messed up for not choosing her over my girlfriend (doesnt make sense since i didnt have a choice. I wasnt going out with her or even talking to her really at the time i started dating my girlfriend. She had a whole boyfriend)
*says that if me and my girlfriend breakup don’t come back to her because she won’t be there for me
Im not going to allow her to guilt trip me into getting back with her. That’d be stupid. I just want to know what do you guys think about this? Any advice?