Submitted by Previous_Bike_6467 t3_yhm1cg in relationship_advice
Just for background, my parents are still very panini cautious. Washing groceries, wearing gloves, double masking everywhere, the whole shebang.
I've recently moved out, and they also had a recent meltdown when they learned I dropped the rest of their precautions now that I'm in my own place.
They invited me over for Halloween, and were surprised and disappointed when I declined. But I'd rather hang out this Halloween alone. They're just giving out candy -- I'm sorry, not giving it out, but putting a bowl on the front porch that tells kids to take two pieces -- and staying inside, where I'd have to wear a face covering around them anyway.
They also expect me to come over for Thanksgiving. I asked them what they have planned for me to do precaution-wise, and they said we can all eat in separate rooms, and then when we watch a movie together, we can wear face coverings in the family room.
I'm sorry, that does not seem appealing to me. I know the joy of visiting my family should beat all that and I should just put up with it, but it all seems ridiculous. I'm on the verge of saying no to Thanksgiving this year and I know they will have a super ultra meltdown.
TL;DR Parents want us to eat in separate rooms and mask this Thanksgiving due to their pandemic precautions. Don't know how to deal with this.
ETA: Maybe people are thinking I live very far from my family and don't see them often. I only live 40 minutes away and just saw them last weekend when we took a walk in the park together (them double-masked, of course.) I've decided I'm not going to indulge them in their hysteria and offer a morning walk that Thanksgiving instead. Then I'll go back to my place to eat in peace.