I would choose B. You have so much history with A that it's not a fair comparison with someone who hasn't been around as long. Given the cons of A, he doesn't sound like a partner you'd wanna be with in the long run. I'd definitely give B a chance and see where the relationship goes!

>my family does love him

Do they know about the physical abuse?

also - CLEARLY go for B!!!
girl you deserve sooo much better.
the fact that you are afraid B will not like you 100% due to the past you have with A.
allow yourself to set yourself free and get what is good for you.
allow yourself to get better and grow, it sounds like B would help you with this a lot.

I hope you chose your happiness. <3

Coming from someone who was in a situation exactly like this pick b.

I know it's hard when you have loved someone before addiction and watching them go through this is heartbreaking. But you have to think clearly,if a loved you he would seek help and therapy for his issues. He certainly would not abuse you mentally or physically. The grasp of addiction is a terrible road travelled and it hurts everyone involved along the way.

You have someone who cares and loves you and no matter the distance things can always be beautiful. Remember you need to be loved and taken care of as well.

I pray your ex can over come his troubles, but please think about you! You can only do so much for someone else then you need to stop.

Please take care and remember just because b stays far away he truly does care for you ❤️

Here's a wild idea: NEITHER. You are trauma bonded to A, and need to move past that. You are attracted to B because you're comparing him to A. You need to get out of romantic relationships altogether at this time, and focus on yourself. When you're mentally healthy, and ready for a normal and loving relationship, then open yourself up to new possibilities.

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