Submitted by throwitaway01846 t3_ylt1cw in relationship_advice
My (23) boyfriend (30) recently started a new job. This week he has been training with someone who I consider a friend. My friend came to me yesterday and told me that he has been saying very weird and cringe things about me, and that no matter what they are talking about he finds some way to bring the conversation back to me. She described him as “obsessed” and said it’s starting to make her feel weird and uncomfortable. I am shocked because my boyfriend knows that I am not at all a fan of cringey, corny, clingy comments and when he says them at home I just give him a “really…” stare. It is a huge turn off for me. He will occasionally say things like this at home but it wasn’t anything to be concerned about. I don’t know the exact words but these are some of the things he has said to my friend:
- If her boobs were made out of pancake batter she could make like 60 pancakes with them
- Weird cringey stuff like going home and getting “snuggles”
- Saying weird things when I appear on his phone like “There’s that sexy fox, she’s so pretty, I’m out of her league, etc.”
- He somehow loops every topic of conversation back to being about me.
- Said he would go crazy if he didn’t have sex He has had ex coworkers before who have told me that he talks about me all the time but I didn’t think anything of it until now. There were numerous other things he said but that’s what I remember off the top of my head. This behavior is a major turn off for me and makes me uncomfortable. Right now I live with him and will be moving out as soon as I can but until then I don’t know if I will be comfortable breaking up with him. I feel like I don’t even know who he is really, and I don’t even want to talk to or look at him. I don’t know how to go about confronting him about this because I don’t want to “rat” out my friend and make things weird for her at work. Please help I feel weird.
Edit: I know I may seem like an unappreciative asshole and there is nothing wrong with talking about your partner but when it is so constantly nonstop that it is making my friend uncomfortable, that’s strange. There is a limit, especially with sexual/intimate comments. The behavior is inappropriate, and it’s not normal. Also, I LIVED HERE FIRST. I let him move here. I am not financially reliable on him but sure assume because I’m a female lol