Submitted by lemonlimecheesecake t3_yng2b7 in relationship_advice
I (22F) found out my bf (23M) of 3 years has been looking at girl’s instagram profiles cause it was on his recently searched bar. I checked the girl’s profiles and 95% of the pictures the girl’s post are of them in bikinis and posing seductively. I asked him why he was searching for them and he admitted he would jack off to these pictures but never liked, commented or messaged any of these girls and would never act on it or cheat on me. I told him that watching porn is okay because its within the context that the content is for sex and pleasure but random girls’ (NOT celebrities or porn actors) instagram posts arent meant for that.
I feel so betrayed and feel like absolute shit especially because i struggle a lot with my self esteem and body image issues (he is very aware of this as we’ve talked about it many times). I have also been in a previous relationship where my partner has physically cheated on me with another girl and has led to my trust and esteem issues.
I told him i need time alone because i feel like i want to break up with him for making me feel this way and possibly never feeling secure in my relationship again
TLDR; is it a valid reason to break up over your partner masturbating to other women’s personal bikini pictures ?