Submitted by isamuri t3_yowe5x in relationship_advice
She wants me to let her know if we change venues if we're clubbing or even if we go out to grab a bite to eat if we get hungry while at a party. Pretty much updates for anything we do differently. How do you feel on the fairness of that? It feels like a loophole that is the same as me sharing my location. (I refused to share my location with her). How did people survive in the world before without texting and GPS?
Her reason is that she wants to be able to act quickly if something ever happens to me, she'll know where I am. I don't know if it's the truth. On the other hand, I identify as a strong adult who is very capable of taking care of myself.
Her demands for my location and occasional updates really makes me feel a considerable loss of freedom. I feel like I am being controlled in a sense, required to give updates or else face an upset partner at home. Scratching at the back of my mind. It's like having to report to a superior. It takes the enjoyment out of the occasion and directs some of it to making sure I watch the time and report to her how I'm doing on time.