Submitted by Ill-Month2435 t3_yp9ost in relationship_advice
I am 28M and my girlfriend Kat is 25F, we've been together for a little over 2 years. Our relationship has been pretty awesome, she really lights up my life and I adore her.
Yesterday I was helping Kat move to her new house, everything was normal until the bottom of the box that I was carrying up to her room fell through and it all ended up on the floor. Everything that was in the box was ok except this small wooden/wicker box that split a little bit around the hinges for the lid.
Because of the way that the little box split a photo had slid out, I opened the lid so that I could put the photo back in. I wasn't trying to snoop at all but I decided to look at some of the photos, it was a lot of family and pets and friends from different places and life stages, a memories type of thing. Then I came across a few photos of Kat in a hospital bed holding 2 newborn babies followed by more pictures of the babies. I kind of froze and my stomach twisted.
Kat walked into the room and saw me sitting on the floor with the baby pictures and she looked horrified. We didn't say anything for a few moments and then she sat on the floor in front of me and asked if I had any questions about what I had just found. I asked her if these are her babies and she started crying while nodding yes.
I felt myself get angry and I asked her why she would hide them from me, we've been together for over 2 years and we were starting to plan our future, I told her that I don't want to be a step-dad and she had told me that she didn't want to have children! At this point I was yelling (I've never yelled at her before) and she was just crying, not saying anything until she blurted out "they're dead".
I didn't have anything to say and I couldn't stand to look at her so I left. I decided to call my parents and I told them everything that I put in this post. My dad says that I need to talk to her and that I was rude and unempathetic in the way that I handled things and my mom totally reamed me out for "walking out on a good woman who has clearly gone through something traumatic enough that she never wanted to talk about it because I couldn't handle myself for 10 minutes to let her explain". My best friend thinks that I'm justified though.
She's been trying to call me and sending me texts asking to meet with her so that she can explain everything but I just feel betrayed and confused. I don't know where to go from here.