Submitted by LoopDoopie t3_yql5hr in relationship_advice
Me(20) and my girlfriend(19) have been together for almost one year.
3 months ago was the last time she said "I love you" and last month on 11 she asked for a break.
I saw her with some other guys as we go to the sane university. Today she messaged me "Hello (my name)! When are you free to talk?"
I was thinking about saying "Hello there, I'm free tomorrow at :"
What do you think she wants to tell me?
For some context you can read one of my previous posts
Thank you in advance for the advices!
Edit: I answered her message and told her that I am free today at 18:30 and she agreed with it, I will meet her in a few hours and I will make a "bigger" update in this post (10/11/22)
Edit: We met yesterday at 18:30 and for half an hour we talked about random things about our lives and then I asked her if she wanted to tell me something. She said yes and asked me how I felt during this break and I answered with "I tried to focus on myself to become better, doing things that I like and developing myself.
I asked her back and she said "the first two weeks were harder but then I got kinda used to it"
She compared our relationship with the rrlstionship of two of our friends who thought we couldn't last more than three months while theirs lasted for 3 months, she said that our was true love while theirs wasn't
I told her that I don't want to remain friends after because it would be strange to remain friends with the person I wanted to be with my whole life.
She even said "don't think that I do not appreciate everything you did for me, I really loved you" and repeated it some times after.
I said "I hope you will be good and will be able to achieve what you want in life" and she said the same to me. I told her again "good luck om your future" right before going home.
Before our separation yesterday she asked for a final hug and I hugged her like I never did before.
20 seconds after our separation I started crying like a baby and continued for almost 2 hours, even now while I am writing this update some tears are still flowing.
I feel like I lost a part of myself, I feel like I lost the best girl I could find and it's awful. And in the end it's my fault for what happened.
Some of you asked me which where the mistakes that made her behave like this so I'll say if now.
We went on a one month vacation 3 almost 4 months ago and I went in Italy before she went to Germany, I asked one day if she was free to play something during that night to catch up on things and she said "maybe", the same night she played videogames with another guy and I felt like an option so for some time I acted distant, I know I shouldn't have but I didn't know better then. She felt like I didn't care about her and that she was carrying all the relationship. She basically felt so hurt by me that she lost attraction.
She wanted this break to see if she could behave like she did before, in an affectionate way, and yesterday she told me that even tho she tried her best she couldn't do it, so she didn't want to force herself and be fake, I appreciate that.
I feel like I lost all motivation to do anything, I barely slept today and all I can think about is her and regret all the mistakes I made.
What do you think about this? Do you think that she will come back eventually? I'm not gonna chase but I don't know if I can get over her, I am having impossible hopes that come from desperation.