Submitted by frontstsavage t3_yru2t5 in relationship_advice
i’ve been holding this in for almost 2 years now but it always bothers me. when i lost my virginity to my ex, (im a female & he wasn’t a virgin btw) he was extremely rough & was going really fast so i kept saying “no go slower go slower” & he wouldn’t. he kept saying “no trust me” even though i was visibly & audibly uncomfortable? but i didn’t want him to stop completely, i just wanted it slower cause i was in so much pain… like it was an awful moment i’ll never get back. losing my virginity like that, it made me feel horrible & violated almost? but i can’t find anyone online with a similar experience. we’re still cordial til this day & i had better experiences afterwards but i just want to know for my own sanity what other people think..