Submitted by alwaysconfined t3_yvmr16 in relationship_advice
Hey everybody, thanks in advance for your time and any advice.
Me and my girlfriend and I have been together for over 2 years now. From previous experience with moving too fast, I waited until we were past the 1 year mark to invite her to live with me. From the start of our relationship, I've always been very upfront about my sex drive being higher than normal, and it was never a problem. Once she moved in I was very clear that I didn't need or want any financial assistance with bills and could absorb the extra cost of her no problem, including all groceries, and basically every expense we incure together. (I have a very well paying job, so this has always been fine. One of my love languages is taking care of my partner) After living for a while, I notice we go longer and longer without sex. (2 weeks being the longest so far), and when I bring up that im not being satisfied sexually she gets VERY upset and goes on the defense. To compact on that having already been an issue. She was also without a job for 3 months, which I did encourage because she was in a really bad job. It took her about 3 months to find something, and I did offer to absorb her personal bills while she found a new job since I was the one pushing her to find something more career oriented. She's just started week 2 of her new job. During week one, I woke up and made her breakfast everyday, packed her lunch, made dinner, gotten her flowers, had a massage therapist come to the house and rub her down for an hour after her first friday. I also didn't pressure or even ask for any kind of sex that week and so we didn't have any. (I've been off work) Saturday, we had sex in the morning and that night. That was awesome. Then Sunday, nothing. Tonight, nothing. I pointed out that I basically feel like she's not sexually attracted to me. She claims that's not the case, and I also pointed out that I feel like I do a ton of stuff for her just to make her happy (outside of paying the bills) and she knows this is how I've always been and I feel like I'm just not priority? Or my needs aren't. She says I'm way too concerned about sex. So I'm trying to see if I really am being unreasonable?