Submitted by Admirable-Writer-465 t3_yx0tmu in relationship_advice
My husband and I have been together for almost 19 years. We have 2 kids, 7 and 10 years old. He's 36, I'm 35.
The problem is that for the most part of our relationship, my husband has had a lower sex drive than me and it has always been difficult for me. Over the years sex has become less and less and in recent years we've been having sex once every 2 months when he wants to.
The thing is, I really thought we just had different sex drives and have tried to accept that but he recently admitted to me that he has been masturbating to porn on a weekly basis for years because it's easier and more convenient to him.
Hearing this has made me feel so incredibly hurt and like my needs don't matter to him at all. I feel like he has been letting me make a fool of myself for years, trying to spice up our sex life in vain, trying to talk to him about my needs and suggesting different things to boost his libido while he has been keeping the real reason for his lack of interest in sex to himself all along.
How can I get over this feeling? I feel like his admission has killed all of the sexual desire that I've still had left towards him.