Submitted by lazel20 t3_yygzh2 in relationship_advice
I met my(28m) wife (27f) when we were in high school almost 10 years ago, at the time I wasn't really a religious person I didn't consider myself atheist, but she was and still is, we never had a problem for that reason before, so it came as a shock when she said that she wanted a divorce after I adopted one.
I had some really hard times these past few months after the death of my parents and sister, it's true that my wife was by my side the whole time, and she was very supportive and helped me out throughout, but I guess what really helped my mental state was religion, since I adopted it I didn't change much of my habits I just stopped drinking and started prying, but other than that nothing changed in the way that I treat her, so it came as a shock when she told me that she wanted a divorce. When I asked why, she said when we first met she liked me because I wasn't religious like her, and that I wasn't judgmental and that now she doesn't see me that way anymore . She refuse to talk to me now, and when ever we meet in a room she gets out immediately, she now sleeps in one of the guest rooms, and she is planning on moving her stuff there.
I feel like I wasted 10 years of my life, I fell like the person I trusted the most in my life was a lie, I don't know what to do anymore I feel like I am loosing everyone I ever cared for .
I don’t know what to do from here. Every bit of help is appreciated.
Edit: to those who are asking, I converted to Islam.
-Me and my wife has been married for almost 2 years now, but we have been in a relationship for 10 (since highschool)
-Yes my wife has some trauma because of her mother(Christian) who tried to force her into it.
-And Yes I knew I could have told her about my beliefs changing, I could have handled it way better
I am not blaming her for anything , I am blaming my self for wasting her time and mine I still love her from the bottom of my heart and want what best for the both of us even if it's not together