Submitted by sbull630 t3_yz7qa1 in relationship_advice
I’m one of the few people in the world who has an issue with weed. I really couldn’t tell you why honestly except that over the years I became allergic to it. Weird, I know. I can’t be around it without an immediate migraine. That started about 4 years ago. The last 5 months, it hasn’t been as bad. When I was younger I smoked, but I really just didn’t see what all the hype was about.
In my state, it was passed to legalize it, under certain conditions, and as it stands, you can have a medical card. My (f39) boyfriend (m35) would smoke recreationally because of “stomach issues”. I’m not stupid. He smokes before work, after work, and on the weekends tries to stay in a constant state of some level of highness. He got his medical card 2 months ago to “put my mind at ease”. He does have stomach issues, but if he was smoking just for that, he wouldn’t smoke as much. Since he got his card, he’s going to the dispensary every other day it seems and trying out everything they have. I asked him to just not take anything to work, as people get fired constantly for smelling like weed (they smoked on their break) and I’ve seen him take his new vapes out of his work bag. Yesterday he took one of the vapes out of his work bag and “don’t know how it got there.” Today I was checking his lunchbox because on Friday’s he has a bad habit of not cleaning it out, and there was more paraphernalia. I don’t know how many times I have to keep asking him the same things over and over. Should I just let him get caught and say “I told you so”? He knows this stuff bothers me and he works with heavy machinery. I’m tired of repeating myself but I’m also not his mother.
EDIT: thanks for for the award!
EDIT 2: I didn’t respond to all the comments, but I did read them. Some not so nice or helpful (which was to be expected) and some extremely helpful. I still haven’t decided what or how I’m going to handle this, whether I’m going to just let it go or have one last conversation about it, but in either case, I don’t want one of us to end up resenting the other. We really do have an amazing relationship and take care of each other.