Submitted by basic_pitches t3_z1514u in relationship_advice
So for some background I (25F) have always been a sports fan, football, baseball but basketball has always been my favorite. When I was 19 I started dating a guy who was also big into basketball. He worked for the local NBA franchise as a water boy basically. He would often be able to get me a single ticket (very good seats) to home games. I almost always went alone, if I recall correctly over the 2 and half years we dated and the 20+ games I got to attend I only was ever able to take someone else twice. I didn't mind going alone, if anything it made me fall in love with the game more.
Well things ended with that boyfriend and I met my current boyfriend (M31) three years ago. When we first got together it was the end of September/start of October which is the start of the NBA season. My boyfriends friends play fantasy basketball but needed another player to fill out the league. I said if they couldn't find anyone else to play I would like to try it. They laughed I don't think they thought I was serious but they didn't find another player so they allowed me to join their league.
I threw myself at it. Before I just used to watch the games but then I started listening to podcasts, following reddit threads, twitter accounts, reading articles, etc. I ended getting second place that first year, although it was close. They were pleasantly surprised with my success but attributed it to beginners luck. They then invited me to play football, I won. Again, they were surprised. I wanted to try fantasy baseball and they have a league for that as well. I ended up in second place. I've completed four seasons in total between the three sports have either gotten first or second place each time.
Currently my boyfriend and I are playing in a fantasy football and basketball league. I'm in second in one and tied for first in the other right now. Also two weeks ago I started playing DFS (daily fantasy sports betting) and I've been successful. Now Reddit, here is my problem....
My boyfriend came home from work the other day and I was doing some work on computer and had Sport Center on quietly in the background. He sat me down and said he needed to ask me a serious question, am I lesbian?
I asked why he would think that. He said because of the fantasy sports! I was dumbfounded. It's a hobby to me! He may not be into it as much as me but he has his own hobbies like working on cars and collecting action figures. I don't get the difference?
His favorite sport is football. Before I started playing fantasy football he would watch it with me. That doesn't happen anymore. He will no longer talk about sports with me. Like at all. He just rolls his eyes, says he doesn't want to hear it and changes the subject. I enjoy seeing his face light up when he talks about his hobbies. I engage and ask questions, it's cute to see him go dorky.
Before you ask, we have a good sex life. When I first got into playing fantasy sports (2ish years ago) I was also going through the process of being diagnosed with endometriosis. So I will admit there was about 8 months of little intimacy but it was because I was in pain and I feel like I was clear with him that was why. I had surgery and have been pretty much pain free since.
This happened a few days ago and things just seem "off". He keeps making jokes about it and I don't find them funny. I think maybe his "friends" have been making fun of him because I've been doing significantly better than him? Maybe I am thinking too much into it? If not, how do I go about discussing this with him further?