Submitted by MicroGiant88 t3_z6w2ai in relationship_advice
Should I tell her I have cancer, or keep it to myself?
My ex and I just started talking again and even after months apart I still believe she's the most amazing woman on the planet and the love of my life. I've never cared about anyone like I do her. She's everything to me and I want to prove that I can be the person she fell in love with again.
The problem is that I have some form of advanced cancer that I'll be starting treatment for soon.
Norm Macdonald is a hero of mine and like him, I don't really want anyone to know. I don't want to share my burden with anyone or spread anymore misery but if my time is short, I want to make the most of it.
I also don't want her to spend my last days with me out of pity so I'm leaning towards not telling her. I haven't even told my close relatives. I was thinking about writing letters when the time comes. Is it better to keep this to myself and quietly fight it while fighting for her? Or do I tell her and see what happens?