Submitted by Beautifulmind95 t3_z89tr3 in relationship_advice
Hello,
I’m really not sure who to go to with this problem because I honestly don’t have a lot of friends who won’t be biased and I really need some relationship advice.
My gf’s parents just bought a house 150k over market price at like a 9% interest rate on their loan. It’s INSANITY. I kept telling her to tell them it’s a bad idea and the market will drop and they’ll be fine if they wait even till the new year. No, no, no. It has to happen now. They closed on a house and their mortgage is unthinkably high and it’s only her dad who works and he makes a good wage. Even making that probably won’t be enough.
So? Now cut to me and her. We’ve been dating for a year and a half and I really truly do love her and I bought a ring. In two weeks I was going to ask her to marry me but Im really regretting it now. She told me today she wants to live in this house and help her parents and she wants me to move in and help them too. (Her parents are super religious FYI so I won’t be able to do or say anything without being judged and honestly even visiting their house makes me really really uncomfortable) I told her no because I want to start a life with her and have our own privacy and really build on a marriage that involves no one but us. (Apparently this unreasonable?)
We got into an argument today because she wants me to be happy for her family for finally buying their own house. While I am happy for them, she ignored every attempt I had in trying to tell her we’re getting engaged soon and you won’t live their long. She thinks I’m unreasonable because I don’t want to help her judgemental religious parents because they made a really bad decision. They probably don’t like me because I don’t meet their standards for their religion anyway. Not the point.
I really need some advice Reddit. How do I go about this.