Submitted by AnxiousWarCriminal t3_z94tlx in relationship_advice
TL/DR: I have lost more weight than my wife on the same diet and she feels self conscious. Should I secretly stop my diet so I stop losing weight so quick?
Edit: Dumb idea, got it. I’ll quadruple the “I love you”s instead. Edit 2: spelling
My wife (23F) and I (22M) have been on the keto diet for a few months now. My body naturally is just good at losing weight so I lost 20+ lbs. My wife on the other hand says she has not lost much. She hasn’t told me how much and of course I’m not going to ask. She is disappointed that she hasn’t lost the same weight I have and it’s getting her a bit down. I don’t want her feeling bad because of me loosing weight.
With my job, I can easily sneak in some high carb food every once in a while so I don’t lose weight so fast. I am ok with my current weight anyway so no harm on my part. Maybe if I slow down some and, for lack of better words, let her catch up maybe she won’t feel as self conscious.
I really don’t want to keep a secret or lie to my wife but if it helps her feel more comfortable and confident in her body then I am willing to do it. For the record, I love the way my wife looks and how she looked before we even started the diet. I just want to help her be more comfortable. She is always so beautiful.