Submitted by [deleted] t3_z9g81o in relationship_advice
So i (24f) have been with my finance for the better half of six years. We started dating in the last year of sixthform (senior year) and we've been together ever since.
He's always been so kind and affectionate. Gift giving, date night and so on and so forth. I can only remember one time where we had an argument and we got over it pretty quickly. He's the love of my life.
A week ago I was added to a gc with 5 different women all of them with proof of his affairs, and they added that they weren't the only ones. Some of it msde me physically sick.
I know that its wrong but I went onto his personal email and he was getting monthly sometimes even weekly STI and sexual health checks. He was always very adiment that we use the barrier method and never have unprotected sex, but i assumed it was because we both agreed we weren't ready for children.
Apparently he cut ties with these 5 specific women within days before he proposed. I have been so off all week and he's noticed, buying me flowers and taking me out for dinner. Last night we watched a movie and he paused it halfway through to ask me what was wrong. I broke down in his arms but I didn't have the courage to say anything
Do I bring it up and risk us splitting or do I just accept that its a thing of the past? I haven't told anyone yet. Everything is so perfect I don't want to ruin it
ETA: I've told my bestfriend, currently drinking wine and crying. Also by perfect I meant, our life prior to me knowing.
FAQ: girl whats wrong with you? I have dangerously low self esteem and have never been with another man in any way, not even kissing.
I think I will say something but whether or not we split will depend on how it goes