Submitted by Leftbehind001 t3_zc4njz in relationship_advice
It was the 7 month best relationship that I ever had in my 35 years in this world.
It started as a hinge date, he showed me places ive never been, he thought me things that I never knew and he held my hand when I am scared. He kept reminding me that I was his best friend and that he wont leave me.
When we were together he would take me out on dates 4x a week, he spoiled me, he bought me numerous gifts, thoughtful gifts that he thought i needed in my life. He took me on weekend trips hours away from our city, drove hours to make me happy when I am feeling down. He would make himself silly to see me smile. He would caress me, he would tell me how beautiful I was then kisses me on forehead.
He bought me plane tickets to go in another state to introduce me to his childhood friends, he showed me around in his hometown and kept on asking would u like to live here one day.. (he was in my city for a project that he was working on). He was consistent up to the end, he never gave me any reason to doubt him, any reason that he would leave me.
It was my birthday 4 days ago, he surprised me with an expensive present that I needed and took me for a nice dinner while singing happy birthday to me. We spent 5days together in a week.
But dating nowadays is hard, how would you know someones true intention? People told me if someone is consistent, introduced you to his friends, continue to invest in you put all the efforts he is serious about you.. It was all wrong..
3days ago, I went back to my unit.. He called in the afternoon and told me he will comeover and he will take me out for dinner. I was so happy, i thought he missed me already eventho we were togther 5 days in a row this week.. I made sure i looked pretty, he came in and said lets go! im starving! We ate, he was serving me with my food and it was so sweet i thought.. when we came back to my unit. I asked him if he wants to stay the night, he said lets go in.. Put a movie on, cuddled in the couch and he was hugging me tight as if he didnt want to let me go.. The movie finished and I asked him again, are u staying the night?
He fixed himself up and he told me "I quit my job and I am going back to my hometown in 4days to work there again.." which was tom. And I said okay.. what are we going to do now.. I thought he would say i would love for you to relocate with me.. he knew with my line of work i can work anywhere and that I dont have family here as im an immigrant.. but he said "we should break up as I dont know my next plan" without explanation, while I was trying to process things, he got up grabbed his things and left me behind.. I was shocked.. I tried to message him to look for answers but i am already blocked everywhere.
In that time, he was this cruel, selfish bastard that played me and im this gullible fool who he needed in this city and i dont know who I hate the most.
Today 3 days later, the shock is wearing off. I barely eaten and drunk. I dont know what I did and I feel like im worthless. This is beyond pain over pain. I am tired and im so done.
He broke up with me in my couch infront of my tv which I havent sat on since he left.
TLDR; I was wined and dined and broken up all of a sudden
Edit: After having 3 days off to process everything I decided to work this morning, forced myself to get up and get ready for work and Ive been talking myself i need to focus as im a nurse, I have to be strong ,I live alone and have no family around for support..I cant screw up.. but when I went out of my unit, I saw all my stuffs outside my doorstep, the stuffs I left in his house even the 1 gift i bought him 5 months ago.. More tears flowing, I assumed he has already flown back to his hometown already. Hope he is okay at least, im at work right now and I feel like throwing up bec. of the stress im going through. I feel like texting him on my friends phone but i dont think its gonna do me any better.
EDIT 2: Somebody messaged me about his age if he is much older than me he must have been a sugar daddy, he is quite in fact 3 years younger than me and no he is not my sugar daddy, paid for stuffs too, as i commented in one of the comment here.. I was a really good girlfriend to him, God knows i really tried with this one as I saw future with him.
And also lots of people commented that i seemed immature compared to my age.. You are right I am.. Im kinda late bloomer and ive only had 3 relationships prior to this, they were all LTR so in the dating game, im a bit clueless esp. coming from a ltr one. And the thing is as well, I looked very young compared to my age thats why the people I meet are younger ones too and they are quite immature as well, i think when im ready to date I will look for more matured one and more stable emotionally.