Submitted by notchirch t3_zfwivi in relationship_advice
My brother and his wife just had their first kid. They want my husband and I to be the godparents the only problem is that we are not married in the eyes of the Catholic Church. We are legally married but never had any kind of religious ceremony our officiant was a friend that got ordained online.
Now my brother and SIL are asking us to get married with the Catholic Church so we can be god parents. My husband and don’t want to do that we are both not big fans of religion in general. ( especially the Catholic Church) When we got married his mom begged us to have a Catholic Church wedding and we obviously refused. When we have kids there’s no way in hell we would get them baptized.
I told my brother and SIL that while I appreciate they want us to be the godparents getting married in the eyes of the church is not something we are going to do. Now it’s blown up into a whole thing.
My mother is upset, my SIL parents are pissed. SIL doesn’t have any siblings and they are saying we are disrespectful and horrible. They are claiming that if we don’t do this they are unsure if they want us in their child’s life. I think they are overreacting this is a personal choice my husband and I made. I’m being called immature for not wanting anything to do with religion. Idk how to handle this