Submitted by ukukukakaka t3_zgs829 in relationship_advice
So I have a rather small chest and although my boyfriend says he loves my boobs, I'm still insecure about this.
I don't really want him watching movies when there's naked women or with just a bra on becuase it's showing tits, even if just outlines. He was being okay with this, but lately he said that he feels this is being unfair, because I can watch whatever I want and he can watch 1out of 10 movies he would like to watch, because these kind of scenes might be there. I just ask him to skip these scenes, but he says he doesn't want to get up every time there's a scene like this to skip it.
Now few days ago he told me that he feels it would be fair if I did the same with men, if there's a dude without his shirt on then I should skip it as well. He calls it leading by example. But it's complete and utter bullshit. He doesn't really mind if I watch guys without their shirts on, and I don't want to skip that becuase it's most of the time an important part of the show/movie.
It's so obvious that he's just being an asshole and since he can't watch something he wants to limit my options as well.
He also told me something that we already talked about, and I kind of understand this, bit still..
He had some anger issues when he was living with his parents, because he had 2 older brothers who had been getting everything from their parents while he was just getting their old stuff and his parents always said that they're treating everyone fair. They bought cars for his two older brothers, paid for their delivers licenses, gave them money to start a career in a new city. And my bf had to get a job while living with his parents and after he would come back he had to help his parents (they're farmers and there's always a lot of work), and while he was the only one helping his parents out the money was still going to his brothers, and his parents were saying that he's getting food and roof above his head, and his brothers need this money way more becuase they have families.
He's now saying that this is a similar situation (which it is not) because he knows this isn't fair and we're not equal partners in this relationship and one time, few weeks ago was the first time he raised his voice at me, he apologized, but said that this whole thing (my insecurities) is causing this. Btw. We've been together for more than 2 years, and we've had this boundary for most of that time.