Submitted by Bansmemes t3_zhjgvh in relationship_advice
so my gf was hanging out w her girlfriends smoking, she was telling me about it and how they had fun and how a gay guy was dancing w everyone and gave her a lap dance. I stopped talking cuz that pissed me off and so she asks if I’m upset, if something happens like this usually I just consider it heat of the moment and I tell her it’s fine ima get over it nothings wrong. But I have a clear line I won’t let be crossed.
so I told her that it bothered me, she explained that he acted super gay (which apparently stereotyping confirms his sexuality) and that his balls were only near her face for like 2 seconds, she brushed it off saying shes sorry in a nonchalant tone and that it’s not a big deal. I told her “how would you feel if a lesbian girl came up to me and gave me a lap dance and put her tits or ass in my face?” She was silent and left
I don’t know if this sounds toxic of me or something or if I’m in the wrong but I wanted some advice and other opinions on the topic, I apologize to all of you and her if I am the one in the wrong here
Edit: Ok so instead of judging me based on how you would react, try to think of how the relationship works and if I’m in the wrong based on how I reacted to her violating MY boundaries
Update: I tried talking to her about it but she gaslighted me. We had an argument and I got over it and went back to acting normal. Just yesterday (Dec 15th) we got in another argument and blocked eachother
TL;DR gf got a lap dance from a gay dude, I got upset, she left