Submitted by Professional_Ad5050 t3_zklpo5 in relationship_advice
UPDATE IN COMMENTS
I’m 21, older sister of two, and logically I should tell my parents about all this. But here’s the context to why I can’t: my parents would literally beat the shit out of my sister instead of talking to her and explain why she shouldn’t do the things that she’s doing. They’ll ignore her, punish her, and make everyone else’s lives miserable.
Granted, she absolutely deserves to be punished. About a month ago she got a boyfriend and obviously I was skeptical about their relationship. Over her shoulder I would see hearts spamming her phone and the usual cringey “I love you” messages. I met the kid for the first time yesterday, typical emo hoodie wearing kid, no hellos and no motivation to talk to me (or my own boyfriend who was helping me chaperone their date). Understandably, don’t take it to heart who cares. Immediately they’re hugging, holding hands, sneaking kisses like we can’t see them, doing the absolute most- you’re CHILDERN??? Basically their closeness got me worried and like most older siblings, I snooped through her discord. Before anyone drags me, she doesn’t have the best track record using discord (and it’s the number one site for predators to use) and I’ve caught her talking to older men and saying stupid shit a child has no business saying.
I saw so much shit.
From her and him sending actual clips of porn (not of themselves), to them talking about the hickeys they give each other, it’s a god damn mess. Obviously I need to talk to her but I’m sure she won’t listen to me (I already spoke to her about being responsible with her body, in and out of a relationship) and I feel like I need to take some sort of action. She’s in extremely NSFW type of group chats and willingly participates in shit. She’s also the one instigating a lot of shit which sickens me to my core. No I am not shaming her for her “expressing her sexuality” she’s a FUCKING CHILD and my sister who I had hoped was keeping her innocence longer than this. By no means am I perfect either I was looking at shit too when I was a kid but not fucking this.
So with that, I don’t know what to do or what steps to take going forward. Serious advice only.