Submitted by [deleted] t3_znn23j in relationship_advice
This happend a few weeks back. I remember the first part of the evening clearly, just a really cheerful mode and everybody was having a good time. I do not drink often and I guess I just lost control completely... somewhere after dinner it is all black to me, except for a few fragements (getting inside a cab, but not going anywhere, holding this guys face between my hands)... If I were to puzzle it all together I would probably have 2-3 minutes instead of the 5 hours which was the actual time I attended the party. No memory at all of what I have said. I woke up with the girl colleague that I shared room with (thank God!) and she retelled a lot of the stupid shit I had done... In front of everyone I work with. I had a lot of anxiety as I cheated on my partner and once I got back, I re-telled some of the things that I heard I did. We had a fight but we are kind of OK now.
Everyone at work looks at me weird. They know my private situation, some had even tried talking me out of hooking up with this guy during the party. I am not sure how to proceed. Ignore everything? Find a new job? Anyone been in a similar situation? I have a hard time not thinking about this constantly.
Update: Q: How much did i tell my partner? : he knows that I cheated and do not remember much more than that. He did not ask for details. Q: How much did you drink? Could you have been drugged? A lot and too fast. I do not think I was being drugged. I usually drink 2-3 Times a year. Q: How well do you know that colleague? Not at all really, he works in a different building with tasks that are not in line with mine. We do not meet much, we have been greeting eachother and made some small talk. I also have the option to work from home so I can avoid him.
I will not be going to work parties any more, that is already decided. Thanks for all the advice.