Submitted by ThrowRAOK-Valuable84 t3_zonrfd in relationship_advice
I (20F) have been dating my boyfriend (20M) for 3.5 years.
He never brings it up unless I ask him directly, but I don't have my boyfriend's ideal body. He tells me I have a great body and he finds me incredibly attractive overall, but he would find me a bit more physically attractive if I built up my ass a little more at the gym. He says that he's seen girls who are 'marginally' more physically attractive, but doesn't see the problem in this as he doesn't see himself as perfect either.
For some reason this always hits me really deep, and I can't seem to be alright with the thought of him finding other girls more physically attractive. I've been feeling very insecure, hating my body, and comparing myself almost obsessively to girls I see on social media. My boyfriend is not the type to sugarcoat things. He said that there are so many other components to attraction besides just body and he is overall much more attracted to me than anyone else. Still, whenever I think about not having his perfect ideal body, I feel like I'm not good enough. I go to the gym, but struggle with consistency and eating enough to gain weight.
How can I get over this and stop being so insecure about my body?
TLDR: I want to stop feeling insecure, knowing that I don't have my boyfriend's ideal body.