Submitted by FargoneX t3_zozxlc in relationship_advice
Tldr: Met with Ex pregnant ex girlfriend and she sends me a message 2 days later need advice
So my ex (25f) and I (32m) were dating for 6 months which ended abruptly over something trivial, apparently she got the "ick". I confronted her about something that bothered me and was thinking of breaking up with her over it but she was the one who initiated it in the end.
A week later I get a call telling me she's pregnant and I won't go into details but it's very likely to be mine because of certain circumstances. Both our families know.
It's been 3 weeks since the breakup and we met the other day as she started to message me, "who knows, maybe we will end up getting back together" discussing us was on the table in the meet.
The meeting went well and we talked about the baby and had a laugh etc and of course the topic of dating had to be brought up by her. I do still have feelings for her and we did click etc
Today I got a message and I'm not sure how to repond, I know she's probably going through the nausea etc and maybe feeling a little pressure about us dating again. She was the one who mentioned it on the night that it was almost like a first date again as we had food etc.
I'm not sure how to reply to the message as it is almost a veiled threat, but I don't want to put unnessessary pressure on her. At the same time I'm a bit pissed to be honest as it come across as controlling. You're allowed to do x but if you do, z will happen. The message is below and I would like advice on how to respond. She knows I don't like these sorts of messages in text so im half tempted to call her. Please advice on how to respond or proceed.
Message:
Hi ******, I’ve been thinking since we met. Your chatting to people and obviously want to be with someone. I’m pregnant and not feeling 100% I’m not in the mind set to date right now at all.
I just need some time until I get further along in the pregnancy, when I get to 12 weeks I will feel better x
It’s upto you if you see *****but she is having nothing to do with my baby x
I wouldn’t date anyone other than you so don’t get the wrong end of the stick. But I know you won’t want to wait so if anything progresses with anyone they just can’t be around the baby x