Submitted by ThrowRAmuppet t3_zp4w1l in relationship_advice
Title correction: GF still hangs out with her ex, she previously cheated on me with him.
Edit: Thank you all for all the support and all you opinións have made realise I’m not being controlling and that I need to stand up for myself.
I decided what to do: I will stand up for myself and will not tolerate any disrespectful abusive behaviour, if she wants to change is her last opportunity, if she doesn’t(which I think she won’t) I’ll dump her, thank you everyone.
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So as the title says my gf still hangs around his ex, and she previously cheated with him, now I’ve told her that I’m not okay with that and that if she wants to carry on she should let me know. And I will likely take the decision to move on.
The issue is that is on her close friends circle so completely losing contact will never be possible for her. And as she has been spending more time and effort in the relationship lately, she’s scared she will lose her friends as a result of cancelling plans because he’s there.
So I’m not sure if we can carry on like this, I don’t want this to get toxic(or more toxic at least)
But I’m definitely not okay with her still hanging out with him.
What can I do in this situation, she’s aware I’m not okay with her hanging out anymore and she will try, but I feel is gonna still be trouble in the future.