Submitted by weddingphotosMIA t3_zp968a in relationship_advice
My husband’s parents visited recently and they’re usually super nice people but on this most recent visit they complained to him about how I dress and that I look “shabby”. Now mind you it’s winter time here so I’ve been wearing sweaters and coats and not the most sexy outfits but I’m still putting on makeup. Anyways he’s taken up their tune and also started complaining about how I dress and calling me “shabby”. It’s really hurtful and I’ve told him that, but he continues to believe I’m not putting in effort to look good. I work full time as a doctor but I still take the time to dress up when we go out for dinner/events. I’ve even shown him photos of me dressed up when we went out in the past as proof that I do dress nice and he dismissed it by saying “anyone can do that”. I told him that him and his family are very superficial to complain about me like that but he denies it. What can I do about this?
Update: I showed him this post and he says I twisted my words to make me look like the victim to get sympathy (smh) anyways we had a long fight yesterday. He said he was brought up by these values from childhood and he continues to insist on them. It’s exhausting to try to change his beliefs to get to see how shallow he and his family is. He doesn’t see anything wrong with it he just sees it as a benign request “I care how my wife looks so she should put in the effort to look good… you should look good so I’m attracted to you… why is it so bad that I should want my wife to look good?”